So. Me and D have done a lot of talking last night and today and we’ve made a basic plan. Ohh, first, … yea. We’re moving to San Francisco!!! 😀 WOOT WOOT! We talked and thought and talked and looked and thought and talked more, and decided that of all the places we could go, that San Francisco area will work best for our personalities, lifestyles and what we want out of life. Oy, plus with it being such a larger area, it’ll help to be able to say where I am and still retain a certain amount of anonymity LOL
Basically, this next week and two we’re going to look for apartments, and call a few of them to see what they look for regarding background info and such, so we know what we need prepared. Once we find an area that is reasonable for all that (we both have bad credit… >.> ) plus is reasonable for rent etc we’ll narrow our job search down more to that specific area, for what’s reasonable for commute and public transport availability.
We’ve got basic plans in action for getting rid of a few large items, like a bookshelf we don’t need, a coffee table and rocking chair we don’t use, plus actually my fish tank. I’m keeping my betta but gonna get rid of my 10 gallon tank. It’s up for grabs if anyone wants it! LOL
Anyway, we’re both pretty psyched about this. We’re really looking at it as a new start, a new beginning. A new life that’s ours, ya know? Where we are now… basically you have one option for life; conform. If not, you are blocked out of a lot of stuff, options, choices and opportunities are not allowed for you. We were sitting in the bus stop today talking about this and that’s one of the big reasons we’re leaving the upper midwest; options. We were trying to form some sort of list of options we have here, and basically it’s one; conform.
So, we have decided to make our life, fit our life if that makes sense. Over lunch today we were talking as well (as I said, we’ve had a lot of discussions about this) and I’ve decided to file bankruptcy after we move. Some bills regarding my estranged husband are coming up to bite me in the ass and now I’m racking up more with my surgeries. A few months ago I talked with a financial counselor, and it also turns out that even after I file my divorce, even if the judge signs it and we put that a couple bills split half and half, the bill collectors can still come after me for his half, even if I pay mine and it says that in the divorce decree. So along with making sure my divorce papers are filed, I’m filing bankruptcy and D is okay with that. It’s just one more way to start over, ya know? And yes, I fully understand that it looks horrible and awful on my credit, but truthfully, my credit can’t get much worse than it is now. At least with the bankruptcy, I can start over, ya know?
So right, the plan. Our lease is up in October. Due to a few things that happened to D before I moved in with him, the managers have offered to let him out of his lease early. They’re pretty good people. So, our goal is to have things settled and locked in by the end of August, and to hopefully be moved then, by September 1. As we can get out of this lease early. If not, we still have 2 more months before our lease renews and we’re re-locked into something.
We realize that’s uber quick, but we both have several years conditioning us to fear the whole “well, when _____ happens” or “after _____” or “as soon as _____” etc. We do not want that to happen to us this time, plus this way we can get moved before winter sets in. So, we’re pushing ourselves so that we do not let that happen. We’re discussing ways to cut corners, so we can save up enough to move which also means my altar is being put on hold, but it’s so worth it!!! 😀
We’ve got 2 more $75 checks coming from the sale of my car, so those are going straight into my savings account. D is going to be talking to his manager at work (or the lady who’s temporarily replacing his old manager) to see what’s up, are there more hours coming for him, and also is there a chance of him transferring as his company is based out of California. I checked into my job and right now, there isn’t anything open in Cali anywhere that’s something I’d qualify for to transfer. Tomorrow probably I’m gonna check into moving van companies and see what the quotes are looking like, so we can get a base idea for that as well.
In other news, The Sub Mission and her Master are coming to visit next month!! *squeals* That’s gonna be our last splurge of any kind LOL I am so fucking excited! I’m gonna take her to the Hello Kitty store in the Mall of America!! *squeals and bounces*
That’s about it for now. I think I wanna go watch this docu that me and D checked out from the library and have some chips and cheese 🙂